My Girlfriend Dumped Me Right Before I Proposed Because Her Coworkers Told Her To. Then I Collapsed And Found Out I Have A Brain Tumor. Is She Back For Me Or Just Out Of Guilt?

Story 1: The Influence of Coworkers

The Breakup

GF broke up with me after her coworkers said I wasn’t in her league. Four hours later, she regrets it all and is begging for another chance.

I have been with my girlfriend, Kate, exclusively for five years, but on and off for two years before. A lot of my firsts happened with her. We went to each other’s prom and school dances. We supported each other through tough times.

I know Kate is out of my league, and I did all I could to make her feel safe and secure. I’m in love with her and wanted a future with her. I went off to college and got a double major, and Kate went into cosmetology school.

We were planning to move in with each other in a few months and talked about marriage and children. For the last couple of months, she kept making comments.

“My coworkers keep asking why I’m with you,” she would say.

“Coworker [Name] thinks that you’re not in my league. My coworkers want me to hang out with them and meet new people.”

Every time I would ask Kate what she thought, she always said that she loves me, ignores the comments, and tells them to stop. But they kept saying these comments.

Doubts and Confusion

We always had open communication and talked things out. We haven’t had any major issues. We argue over little things such as movies, TV, anime shows, food, etc. We don’t hide anything.

These comments started when she got the job at that salon. She works with all women. She did not cheat or anything—no emotional affairs, no hiding locations, no secret social media.

The other night, we had a nice date. We had a good after-date. When I dropped her off at her place, she commented that she was having doubts about our relationship and wanted to break up.

I was super confused and didn’t say anything. I slowly walked away. I know it was because of her coworkers, the comments they were making, and pushing her to leave me. She said so in a message.

Less than four hours later, she started calling me and texting me, saying she was sorry, didn’t mean it, that she loves me, and she was stupid for what she said. Listening to her new friends, she was going to quit and find a different job and stop talking to her friends as coworkers.

The Fallout

I have not responded to anyone. I’m conflicted. I love her. I have a ring being made for her and money saved for a house for both of us.

We share 85% of our friend groups; the rest are from our jobs. Most of our shared friends have now heard about the breakup and seem just as confused as I am. From some of the messages I have received, it looks like she told them the truth: that her coworkers started to give her insecurities about our relationship, and she stupidly went with it.

Her parents tried to reach out to me asking what happened. We are very close. I have been radio silent. Luckily, I can work remotely. I left my apartment yesterday with my laptop and found a nice place with good internet to still do my job.

I feel lost. I don’t know what I did. I don’t know how to feel. I need advice and suggestions.

TL;DR: My longtime girlfriend just broke up with me because her coworkers thought I’m not good enough for her.

A Wellness Check

Quick update: after I posted, my boss sent me an urgent message asking if we could do a Zoom meeting. I accepted. When his picture came up, there were two cops behind him. Apparently, someone—they wouldn’t name who—asked them to do a wellness check on me.

They tried my apartment, and no one was there. Then they tried my work, but I was not there. My boss knew I was actively working remotely and called me. I had to explain I was alright, just had my phone off due to drama.

I’m also supposed to go to her parents’ house tonight. Update: we did not have a meeting last night; I rescheduled it for tonight, Friday.

Life also has a way of kicking you when you are down. As I was going through my missed calls last night, I got a voicemail saying that my ring would be ready to pick up today, Friday. I also want to apologize for spelling and grammar mistakes; I have not been in my right mind the last few days. Thanks for all the feedback. I will probably update tomorrow or Sunday.