Came Home Early and Overheard My Girlfriend Bragging About Cheating On Me, So I Left Without…

As soon as he informed me of this, I went to the house and started packing as much stuff as I could. The house was a mess: dishes in the sink, clothes laying everywhere, trash was full of takeout and ordered food.

It took me about 3 and a half hours to get all my crap out. Before I left, I cleaned up for Rachel as a final gesture.

That afternoon and evening, I got flooded by Rachel with calls and texts after she realized that I had came home and gotten all of my things. For now, I’m staying at my mother’s house until I can find a place of my own this fall.

I spoke with the landlord and, without Rachel’s signature, he won’t remove me from the lease. This means I will have to cover my half of it until October.

My mom has said I can stay with her until then, at which point I will try to find a new place. I know: a 38-year-old moving back in with his mother.

How amazing life has treated me.

A Confrontation and the Painful Truth

I finally contacted Rachel on Thursday and told her we could meet up at a local bar and grill downtown Friday evening. I told her one of my buddies would be attending to make sure everything was on the up and up.

She complained for a few minutes, saying she wanted me to come home and talk with her so we could move past this. I told her if she wanted to see me, this was how it was going to be.

Eventually, she agreed. Friday night, Rachel shows up after my buddy and I had been there for about an hour.

I had already ate and took a couple shots of Ciroc to calm me. We sat down and she wanted to make small talk, asking about me and blah blah blah.

I cut that garbage off. I told her I had a list of questions.,

Immediately, her eyes welled up. I asked her, how long has this been going on?

She swore this was the first and only time. I told her to cut off the shit.

I said there was no chance we were ever getting back together, so just tell me the truth so I can have my closure and move on with my life. She stuck to her guns for a few minutes.

Then, as most of you predicted, she came clean. Every time I went on those trips for the past 2 years, she thought I was going to cheat on her, so she was having her fun too.

This set me off. I told her she was using this as a f***ing excuse just to sleep around.

I then asked who she was talking to on the phone, but she refused to give me an answer for this. I asked if they used condoms, and she said sometimes.

I said she’s lucky I got an STD test because I’m clean. She doesn’t have to worry about getting one unless her most recent horse didn’t use one.

Finally, before I left, I told her about my plans: the July 4th proposal. I showed her the ring.

I told her that I was going to propose at our friend’s party because that was where they introduced us. It was around here that she just started crying.,

She begged for another chance. I told her that I will always love her, but we are over.

So yeah, she’s been messaging me all day but I’m going to block her here soon. I’m just sitting here eating some B-Dubs and drinking beer while watching the fights.

Hopefully Poirier wins, but I’m doubting it. My life is a train wreck anyway.

Thanks guys for listening. I don’t know if I’ll update again as I doubt I will ever talk to that see-you-next-Tuesday again.

C Falcon 663: “I knew she was going to say it was only once. They always do that. Dummies.”

“Also this line: ‘Every time I went on those trips for the past 2 years she thought I was going to cheat on her so she was having her fun too.’ Blame shifting. Classic cheater move.”

“It’s your fault? I think not. I’m sorry your landlord didn’t let you out of the lease, but at least you have your mom.”

“It’s not ideal but it’s only temporary. 100% her loss. Too bad she was about to become someone’s wife.”,

“A good man chose her, wanted her, and she threw it all away for fun. It’s time to focus on you and your healing. Go easy on the alcohol. Be careful. You’re going to be okay.”

Fly Gusk: “OP, I’m glad that you are clean and sad that she was such a POS and used as justification that she thought you were going to cheat on her on those trips.”

“Sad also that she didn’t want to tell who she was talking to, but I bet it must be someone of the inner circle of friends.”

“Most possibly one of the wives of your buddies, and she didn’t want to give her up because they could cause trouble with a male friend for supporting a cheater.”

“Might as well she was doing that too, so warn your buddies of this possibility.”

“Now about her reaction and manner on the restaurant: she showed no remorse at all and even tried trickle truth.”

“If she were remorseful for what she did, she would have broken before the ring thing. She came to her senses of her stupidity when you showed her that ring and talked about the proposal.”,

“Well, OP, now it is time for you to leave alcohol and start your healing travel. Hope everything goes well and please, if you come to find who was on the other end of that call, update us.”

Final Ties and Moving Forward

Update 2: Hey there, fellow Redditors. I just want to thank each of you for the kind words; it means a lot to me.

A few things have happened the last day so I figured I’d fill you in. Nothing too exciting but nonetheless, here it is.

Rachel is no longer invited to the fourth cookout, so I’m free and clear and don’t need to worry about any confrontation with her.

If you remember in my last post, while at the bar, one of the wives was trying to talk to me. She is the wife that hosts the fourth cookout.

Apparently, Rachel had told her that she had only cheated once and it was a huge mistake. That’s why she was trying to get me to talk things out with her.

When I spoke with her this past Tuesday, I let her know the whole truth. She immediately called Rachel, who confirmed my line of events.,

She was livid and started yelling at her and told her it would be best if she didn’t show up to the event on the 4th because I was going to be there.

Frankly, what she did to me was vile and disgusting. She then asked me to forgive her and said she had no idea.

I explained it wasn’t her fault and she had nothing to ask for forgiveness for. We were both sold a lie by someone we cared about.

As for who was on the phone with her, I can only imagine it was her sister.

The two wives who are friends with her have remained solid that they had no idea Rachel was doing this.

Apparently, on the Saturday evening while we were away, they would have a girls’ night at my house until about 11:00 p.m. and talk about typical girl garbage and drink wine.

The one who isn’t even friends with her but partook in these events confirmed it. The other thing that makes me think it was her sister is I’ve attempted to reach out to her three times now and I have gotten no text back, no call back, nothing.

Her mother has called and said she’s upset about the breakup and asked if there is anything they can do to change my mind, but I told them that’s just not happening.

I went back to work on Monday after taking the week off, so I’m back to my normal routine now. No more booze in the near future; my liver will thank me for that.

This community has helped me a lot and I personally wanted to thank each and every one of you for all of it. I don’t know if I’ll update this account again as it seems this is the end of the situation.

By the way, Rachel has been blocked on all platforms so right now she has no way to contact me.

Cookout host said she isn’t doing good right now, as she told me that before I explained what really happened. But such is life.

I’m not doing good either, but I’m moving on and putting all this behind me. Thanks again, community. Y’all rock.

From a Stadium Smile to a Second Betrayal

Now on to the next story. Story two: worked hard for my wife and took care of our kid and did all the chores while she came home late every day.

So I followed her and found out that she is cheating on me. My wife and I were married for 4 years.,

The first time my wife and I met was at a football stadium. I had gone out with a couple of friends to support my football team and she was there with her family too.

While the game was going on, she tried to take a picture. Since I was sitting a row from where she sat, she captured me in the image.

Without caring if I was intruding or not, I smiled as she took the shots. Well, I’ll say we became friends afterward because she was so lovely and polite.

After she saw me grinning from ear to ear in the pictures, she asked if she could send the pictures to me.

It was hilarious because I thought she would be mad that I ruined her moments; instead, we became friends from there.

We exchanged contacts and followed each other on Facebook. After the day we met, we didn’t talk for a while.

We started talking again after she sent a message on Facebook, and from there we started talking. It started as random questions and gradually we moved to personal questions.,

I liked her personality; she was energetic and always fun to talk to on the phone or chat with. After weeks of talking and getting to know ourselves, I asked her out on a date and she accepted.

Our first date was so smooth and it even led to other dates, subsequently leading to a relationship. I had fallen in love with her and she made me feel like a baby again.

I was heartbroken in my previous relationship and was too afraid to fall in love again, which was more reason I buried myself in work and tried to shut out any woman that came my way.

But with my wife, it was different. She made me feel safe and assured, and I loved her so much.

My mind was at rest with her and eventually we got married. My wife had always wanted a child, so we had one child in the first year of our marriage.

She was already 2 months pregnant before we got married. Although I didn’t want a child so fast, I agreed for us to have a child because of how excited she was.

When our daughter came, I was so happy and I loved how she lit up my world. Her presence pushed me to work harder and become a better father and husband.

As my daughter grew older, she spent more time with me because I worked from home and had enough time to take her to her daycare and bring her back home.

My wife was a nurse, so the only time she got to spend time with our daughter was either on her days off or when she was at home.

Also, because I was the one who spent most of the time at home, I took care of the house, cleaned, did the laundry, and on some days I would cook.

I did this because I wanted to ease the burden on my wife and loved a neat house.

I also knew she was always exhausted every time she came home. The possibility of her cleaning the house, going grocery shopping, and cooking with the little time she had to rest was almost impossible.

So I did all I could to make life easier for us. We continued like this for the first 3 years of our marriage and were both happy.

The Growing Distance and the Grocery Store Discovery

We barely had issues except for our normal couple fights, which never lasted a day. We were also great parents to our daughter and did everything possible to raise her well.,

Everything was great between us until the fourth year of our marriage. It all started with my wife not returning when she was supposed to.

For example, if she worked the afternoon shift and was supposed to come home in the evening to be with us, she would not return until the following day.

She would claim she was covering up for a sick colleague or she decided to work overtime. In the beginning, I understood her reasons, but it got to a level I could not take it anymore.

It was becoming more of a habit than an excuse and it affected our relationship. Our daughter was beginning to miss her mother, and each time I had to devise a dozen excuses for why her mother did not come home.

Also, when all of this started, our intimacy reduced terribly. She no longer allowed me to touch her, and each time I tried to, she would either complain about being so tired or say she was not in the mood.

These continued for weeks and it even rolled into months. It got so bad that I became afraid for our marriage and I signed us up for marriage counseling.,

But she didn’t attend the appointment once. As time passed, our relationship deteriorated and I had to open up to a close friend.

He first suggested that my wife was either seeing someone or was tired of our marriage. None of that made sense.

I trusted my wife so much and it never crossed my mind that she would cheat on me. To even show how much I trusted her, I argued with my friend that my wife couldn’t cheat.

I believed she was only working so hard so we could give our daughter the kind of future she deserved.

I also thought about the aspect of my wife being tired of our marriage, and I tried to talk to her about it. But every time I brought it up, her response would either be cold or she would sound so uninterested in the conversation.

After trying so many times to make things right, the idea of my wife seeing someone else crossed my mind already. In the previous months, there were many changes with her.,

Before, she used to go grocery shopping wearing simple clothes, but she became more conscious of how she looked and would even combine two to three perfumes just to go grocery shopping.

I didn’t think it was suspicious because I had always complained about how she dressed outside the house and the rest.