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“Did you ever think about going public with it? Like exposing them for what they did?”

I’d thought about it. Had screenshots of everything, could prove the privacy violations, could probably cause real problems for their podcast. But what would be the point?

“Nah. The best revenge is just moving on and being happy. Let them keep manufacturing drama for content. I’ll be over here actually living my life.”

About two weeks after the breakup, I started getting messages from random people. Turns out the podcast did an episode about me. Well, about “Dave,” their anonymous example of toxic masculinity who couldn’t handle a strong woman’s growth.

The episode was titled, “When He Can’t Handle Your Evolution.” Vanessa spent 45 minutes painting this picture of a controlling boyfriend who isolated his girlfriend from her support system and used manipulation tactics. Every normal relationship behavior was twisted into evidence of abuse.

People who knew us both started reaching out.

“Is this about you?”

“Are you okay? This episode is wild.”

“Is any of it true?”

I didn’t engage. The people who actually knew me didn’t need an explanation. The people who believed Vanessa’s narrative weren’t worth convincing.

But Jake wasn’t having it. He left a review: “Imagine violating someone’s privacy by sharing their private texts without consent, then calling them abusive for having normal boundaries. This show manufactures drama for content.”

Trevor added his own review, pointing out the privacy violations and questioning the ethics. The comment section became a war zone. Vanessa doubled down with Instagram stories about how toxic men’s friends will always defend them and how speaking truth gets women silenced by the patriarchy.

The victim complex was Olympic level. About a month after the breakup, I got a DM from Lauren, the editor.

“Hey, can we talk?”

I left her on read for a day, then replied, “About what?”

“I think I owe you an apology.”

We met at a coffee shop. She looked uncomfortable.

“What we did to you was messed up. All of it,” she started.

“Vanessa is brilliant at creating narratives. But after you left that night, Ashley completely fell apart. Vanessa convinced her she’d made the right choice.”

“And you believed that at first?”

“But editing that episode about you, I kept thinking… none of this sounds that bad. You wanted to plan trips? Preferred small groups? Where’s the abuse?”

She took a breath.

“Vanessa shut me down when I questioned it. Said I was protecting male toxicity.”

“Why tell me this?”

“Because it’s not just you. She’s done this to others. Ashley’s starting to see it. I’m sorry. You deserved better.”

The Final Credits

She left. I sat there thinking about how easily people outsource their judgment to someone charismatic. Two months post-breakup, my life had completely transformed.

Started rock climbing regularly with Jake and Trevor. Picked up that security tool project I’d been thinking about for years. Started sleeping better, eating better, feeling more like myself.

Met Maya through the climbing gym; she’s a product designer who lives in my building. We kept running into each other and started grabbing coffee after sessions. No agenda, just two people who enjoyed each other’s company.

Three months in, we started dating officially. She has friends, a full life, and hobbies, but none of it involves turning her personal life into content. When I told her about Ashley, she just said, “That sounds exhausting. I’m glad you’re past it.”

No psychoanalysis, no dissecting every detail to find hidden meaning. Just acknowledgment and moving forward—a revolutionary concept, apparently. We cook together; she makes incredible pad thai from scratch.

We go hiking without documenting every moment. Have movie nights where we actually watch the movie. After everything that happened, simple and genuine feels like winning the lottery.

I’m not walking on eggshells wondering if something I say will end up in a group chat. Not being graded on my emotional availability. Just existing with someone who likes me as I am.

Last weekend, we drove down to Big Sur. No itinerary, just us and the ocean. Maya took a photo of me on the cliffs and said, “You look different. Lighter.”

She was right. Didn’t even notice the weight I’d been carrying until it was gone. As for Ashley and the podcast crew, the show imploded about four months ago.

Turns out, when you build content around manufacturing drama and violating people’s privacy, eventually the chickens come home to roost. Lauren messaged me with updates. After she left the show, Vanessa tried to replace her but couldn’t find anyone willing to work under those conditions.

Sponsors started dropping off after the reviews and complaints about unethical content. The final nail was when someone in their friend group realized Vanessa had been secretly recording their private conversations to use as anonymous examples on the show. They sued. Vanessa lost.

The podcast is dead. Website’s still up but hasn’t been updated in months. Social media accounts went silent.

It’s like it never existed. Ashley reached out about six months after the breakup. Long email, subject line: “No need to respond, just needed to say this.”

She’d moved to Portland, cut off all contact with Vanessa, and was working freelance doing social media for local businesses. Nothing big, nothing public-facing. Said she’d spent months reflecting on how she’d let someone else control her perception of reality and how she’d outsourced her decision-making to people who didn’t actually have her best interests at heart.

The part that stuck with me: “You were never controlling. You were never emotionally unavailable. I let someone else narrate our relationship for me, and I’m sorry. I failed you. You deserved better.”

She wasn’t asking for forgiveness or a response. Just needed me to know she finally understood what she’d done. I showed the email to Maya.

She read it, nodded once, and said, “Sounds like she’s in a place where she can finally see clearly. That’s good for her.”

No jealousy, no insecurity, no drama. Just acknowledgment that people grow and change. I replied to Ashley briefly: “Thank you for this. I’m glad you’re in a better place. I wish you well.”

That was it. Door closed. No hard feelings. Just two people who’d moved on to healthier places.