My Husband Told Me His Mistress Is More Important Than Our Children. He Didn’t Know I Was Recording The Whole Conversation. How Do I Make Sure He Never Sees Them Again?
She included the psychological assessments, the coach’s statement, the recording, the photos—everything that shows the damage Lance’s choices caused. Lance’s attorney went quiet after receiving the package.
Jillian says he hasn’t responded in three days now, which means he’s reviewing the evidence and realizing how bad Lance’s case looks. She expects him to come back with a much more reasonable proposal once he understands what we have.
She says most attorneys recognize when their client has destroyed their own case and try to negotiate the best deal possible rather than go to trial. She tells me to be patient and let the evidence do its work.
Tuesday morning, I wake up to my phone buzzing with a text from a number I don’t recognize at first. It’s my old number, the one Lance still has.
The message is from Gloria, and it’s nasty. She calls me bitter and says the kids will get over it once they see how happy their dad is with her.
She says I’m being selfish and the kids deserve to see what real love looks like. She actually writes that Lance is better off without me dragging him down.
I screenshot the message immediately and forward it to Jillian with a note saying,
“Gloria just gave us more evidence.”
Jillian responds within 10 minutes saying it’s perfect proof of Gloria’s lack of concern for the children’s well-being. She says any decent adult would prioritize the kids’ feelings, not send angry texts to their mother.
She adds this to our evidence file. That afternoon, I take both kids to their therapy session with Curtis.
He meets with them separately like always, Mia first and then Jake. After both sessions, Curtis asks to speak with me privately in his office.
He tells me that both kids are already showing improvement after just one week away from the toxic environment. Mia is drawing again, creating pictures that show happiness instead of the dark scribbles she was making before.
Jake is sleeping through the night without nightmares for the first time in months. Curtis says the change is remarkable given how short the time period is.
He explains that removing them from the constant stress of Gloria’s presence and Lance’s rejection has allowed them to start healing. He’s documenting everything in his notes for court purposes.
Wednesday morning, the school principal calls and asks me to come in for a meeting. I drop the kids at their classes and head to the office, worried something is wrong.
The principal notices the address change in the system and wants to make sure the kids are okay. I explain the situation briefly, keeping it professional.
She nods like she’s not surprised at all, then she mentions that she’s had concerns about Gloria’s boundary issues at the school. Apparently, Gloria had been trying to insert herself into school events and parent communications inappropriately.
The principal says Gloria would show up at pickup time even when it wasn’t her day, trying to collect the kids. She’d attend parent meetings she wasn’t invited to, acting like she had authority over students who weren’t even in her class.
Other teachers complained that Gloria was overstepping and making parents uncomfortable. The principal has been keeping notes because several families mentioned concerns.
The principal offers to provide a statement about Gloria’s inappropriate behavior at the school and Lance’s absence from the school activities and parent teacher conferences. She pulls out a file that documents every missed conference Lance skipped, every event he didn’t attend, and every time Gloria caused problems.
She says several teachers have noticed the children’s distress over the past months and their improvement since the separation. She’s willing to document all of it officially for court purposes.
I thank her and immediately text Jillian about this new evidence. Jillian responds saying,
“This is exactly what we need because it shows a pattern of Gloria’s poor judgment and Lance’s neglect from objective professional observers.”
Thursday afternoon, Jillian calls with news: Lance finally agreed to supervised visitation at a neutral location without Gloria present. Jillian says this shows he knows his case is weak, because a father confident in his parenting wouldn’t accept such restrictions.
The first visit is scheduled for Saturday at a family visitation center where a professional supervisor will observe his interaction with the kids and file reports. Jillian explains that these supervisors are trained to watch for concerning behaviors and their reports carry weight in court.
She tells me to prepare the kids but not to pressure them either way; if they don’t want to go, that’s their choice and the supervisor will document their reluctance. Friday evening, I sit down with both kids after dinner to prepare them for seeing their dad.
I explain that it will be just him without Gloria and they can leave if they feel uncomfortable. The supervisor is there to make sure everyone is safe and respected.
Mia looks at her hands for a long time before saying she wants to go because she misses her dad even though he hurt her. My heart breaks hearing her say that, but I tell her it’s okay to miss him and it shows she has a good heart.
Jake says he’ll go if Mia goes because he doesn’t want her to be alone with Dad. I tell them both how proud I am of their bravery and resilience.
Saturday morning, I drive the kids to the visitation center, a plain building with a waiting room and several observation rooms. The supervisor greets us and explains the process to the kids in a kind voice.
She takes them to the visitation room while I wait outside. Two hours later, the supervisor brings them back out early; the kids look disappointed and tired.
The supervisor asks to speak with me privately and hands me a copy of her report. According to the report, Lance spent most of the time on his phone texting someone, presumably Gloria.
